OK I will weigh in here, I definitely believe in MLC.
I have read about 30 books on this and other related subjects. Their is science surrounding most of this but it is definitley not a DSM illness. MLC can mimic other DSM mental illnesses and certainly has covert and overt depression linked to it. If it was a DSM illness then a PILL might help it and that is not my experience.
I do not see those with MLC as having "marriage" problems. Not having a divorceable offense by the LBS to justify a divorceable offense by the WAS/MLC'er.
Perfectly good marriages that have been turned upside down.
MLC'ers have returned to their childhood and are reviewing Erichsons stages of childhood development. So some will become two years old and others will be teenagers. Vastly different behaviors based on the ages that they have returned to.
I do not neccesarily agree that the Conway version of MLC which is taught on this website as the only way that a crisis can play out. It was that way for HeartBlessing and her huisband, but we see many other versions that do not follow the same script.
I agree with Jack that whether you agree with it or not does not really matter. Something is going on to the spouses of the LBS and if you have another way that explains it and can show me the science behind it. Then that is fine.
I am with Starsky that MLC does not give someone permission to walk all over the LBS. That is not what should be being taught here or anywhere else.
I do beleive that WAS or MLC the LBS must get on with living their lives and that strong boundaries are neccessary but not a guarantee that the one in crisis will wake up.
