Interpretation of MWD and DR regarding infidelity

[Denver_2010]

P.S. I could add a #3, something more similar with Denver's approach (there was an old poster here named Mulesqb who is a great example of this approach -- what I would call "The Patience of a Saint Approach"). But it's a rare bird who can pull it off without losing themselves in the process -- it's that damned draining. It takes a ton of patience and usually a very strong spiritual faith.


Starsky

Man, I did have the patience of a saint, didn't I?? LOL!

Actually, as I stated in my piecing thread, I could not have applied this '3rd approach' if I hadn't honestly come to the conclusion that I had been really horrible to my W throughout much of our R/M.

Some have said that I have been too hard on myself because I was a good provider financially, and in a sense that may be true. But I totally neglected the emotional side of my R/M. Especially during the months preceding my W leaving me.

I have forgiven myself for that finally. But it was good enough reason to be patient for someone that I love, for someone who deserved to be treated better than that.

I didn't want to have my M end because I had not given it my best.

That was motivation enough for me to hang in there.