Thanks everyone, Arsene your right. Regardless of what W is doing it shouldn’t change my game plan. It sounds like MrBond is providing you a lot of help. I am so sorry about your sitch. What an extremely difficult thing to deal with. Mrbond said there’s probably nothing you can do to keep D away from OM. I am sure he's probably right but what a bunch of bs, that would be so tough. Our kids mean everything to us and they’re already confused by the chaos there being subjected to. Then D is being introduced to the POS OM, just awful. I know I am probably not making you feel any better, I feel for ya. A lot of us are going through some MAJOR transitions right now. Stay strong and hang in there!
I never knew what to expect on this journey. How could I know what to expect because I’ve never had to go through it before and hopefully I will NEVER have to go through it again. Maybe that’s why everyone always uses the term “have no expectations”. This is just pure brutality. On my drive to work I was thinking wow, W and I still really love one another. I just can’t believe I still love and care for W so much after all this pain I'am going through. I’ve always had a really good attitude about everything in life and I think it’s a great trait to have. I’ve gotta tell ya, this separation has tested my positive attitude like no other. But it won’t break me, no way!
So many on this board stress the importance of getting out and doing things. Sometimes I just go home at the end of the day and TRY to relax by myself and that’s all fine and dandy every now and then but I know if I do that, I will be consumed by my sitch. Last night I went over to a friend’s house, it was like a mini party. There was about 7 or 8 of us there. Great BBQ and drinks, just great people. For the most part I completely forgot about my sitch, it was so nice. I need to remember to do stuff like that more often, it’s just so much healthier for me even though I was putting down some drinks, haa..what an oxymoron
We had a lot of fun and the only time I thought about my sitch is when W called me right after we finished dinner because she wanted me to talk to the kids. W started getting all bent out of shape again (what’ new). She’s always complaining how our kids don’t listen to her. They didn’t listen to her very well when we were together but now she doesn’t have me around to help discipline them. Recently W always wants to put the kids on the phone with me so I can tell them to behave well for her. If W really thinks that’s going to do a ton of good she’s fooling herself. I can do my best to help but if she doesn’t learn to be a nurturer AND a disciplinarian at the same time then nothing will change. I don’t bother conveying this to W because I don’t think it would do much good.
