I can totally believe how you felt with wanting to leave. I have seen that in my H(though not recently).
I remember after a bad episode back in May, he tearfully apologized to me for not being a better father. Anything I tried to say to make him feel better was met with "I don't want to hear it."
I realize now that was probably because there was nothing I could have said that would make him feel better.
He is now rebuilding his R with our children, and I am very glad for him and them. I keep hoping he will maybe work on his best friend next. This is an old friend, someone he's known for a long time, and now they don't speak. The friend has repeatedly invited him out or to various things, and my H refuses to go. He claims his friend "acts weird" with him.
I can only imagine what his friend thinks...
I am glad you made it out, and that you have peace and happiness in your life now. Thank you for your insight.
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."