My XW had a crisis and is still in it. My 18 year old son who was EXTEMLY close to his mother said to me on Tuesday..."Dad I wish I could have my old mom back. It so weird dad, it's like someone took the old mom and replaced her with someone else. She is a liar, selfish and self centered person".
I would have to concure with my son. My XW was a doll, a sweetheart what she became is some one not even reconginable.
As for an afraid, I do believe that confrontation IS the right approach to take WHEN and IF the LBS has made changes and is in the right place. My rational is that the LBS should leave/let go, when they can to themselves (not based on what I or any other poster says) say that they gave it their all, they did everything they could.
Just my 2 cetns.
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
