More patience??? Really???

[ces67]

Hi Jks, yes, it started while I had moved to my new job and the family was still at our former home back 2010. W claims it was just flirting but there is a significant emotional connect that she's not fully admitted to. Here's a quick recap..

--W is good friends with the W of OM.
--W works for this couple doing some computer work from our house since January of this year
--When W travels back to former home she often stays with at this family's house.
--It came to a head last Oct when I found a picture of my W with OM hidden in our house. (not one of my better moments).
--W claims and continues to claim it was all in the past and that OM's wife caught them txting.
--W has rebuilt friendship with the OM's wife and says her interactions with OM are very limited since.
--This week I found a wallet size pic of OM hidden in the house but have not said anything.
--W has opened up slightly about her relationship with OM as I have asked some very direct questions but I still believe there is more to it that she is unwilling to share at this point.
--W has continued to stay in our home and since May has made a significant shift in her attitude.
--Big changes since May are 1) including me in family activities 2) more conversation about life and family 3)a re-engagement to the physical aspects of marriage.

So that's the clif-notes version.

SL - not sure how it plays out with you but I read a book called "no more mr nice guy" that really opened my eyes to how I was setting unspoken expectations on my actions and responding negatively when those expectations were not met. Good luck!