I get what you are saying. There were times where there were omissions of truth about contact with OM for reasons that I said in my post. But most of the time, she was honest about things when she could have easily tried to lie. And brutally honest about it when she could have tried to sugar coat things to make me feel better.
Denver,
You've indicated that you intend to be very "aware" going forward. Before you can be aware, you need to be cognizant. Your wife has recently cheated on you, and demonstrated a willingness to lie in order to not lose you.
And you have demonstrated that you're willing to give her a pass on it, for a whole host of reasons. Furthermore, your wife is a very intelligent and intuitive woman, and I think she is well aware of this vulnerability of yours.
I don't think that's a healthy dynamic for the two of you as you enter this difficult piecing phase, is all I'm saying. KNOW YOUR OWN FAULTS, WEAKNESSES AND VULNERABILITIES, and KNOW YOUR WIFE'S. That's what I mean by "cognizance."
From that, will flow awareness.
Anything less and you're deluding yourself, in my opinion.
