Big hugs. I'm right at the same place right now (H is filing for D and going for 50% of all my assets).
All of the positive interaction that's been building between us over the last month seems to count for nothing.
BUT - and I know what the Stockdale paradox says about being optimistic - I keep remembering that it's way too early to expect any sign of a change in H.
These replay stages don't seem to play out for at least 18mths-2 years - and I know about the dangers of putting timelines on things, so please no 2x4s.
But just to keep us from giving up, I think we need to remember that this process takes much longer than we'd hope.
Of course your H is saying that he still wants to file regardless. It's only been a few months since he got this idea into his head as a 'solution' to all his problems. He's probably going to file. That's not the end of things; it's just something he has to do to convince himself that he will feel better. In all likelihood, he won't feel better at all. And then what?
Try to think of it like this if it helps get you through this down phase.
