Piecing - Round 1

[Denver_2010]

Sure there's going to be differences. But the main sticking point is that his W owned up to everything. The site that I posted that novel to you earlier focuses on infidelity and they pretty much show the same thing. The WAS must show remorse and accept what they did. In that way, they learn how not to let it happen again.

Just saying. You're on the right path. It just seems like your W is rug-sweeping and without really understanding why she did what she did, it could happen again and she'll give the same superficial rationale.

I get what you are saying too Bond. I do. Trust me, I wish that she would agree that what she did was wrong. That will never happen though. She is too stubborn, and has the fact that she left me first and had made the decision to be done with our M prior to doing anything wrong to rationalize her decisions. I do strongly believe that she learned from the experience. And comments that she does make, such as she "realizes that OM was an escape for [her]" and that she "wishes that [she] would have never gotten involved with OM" make me feel that somewhere in there, she realizes that she made mistakes.

BTW, I did read the stuff that you cut and pasted from the other site. I had read at least some of that before a while back. Some of it I think applies to my situation and some of it I do not. I feel kind of like a tweener here so to speak. I don't feel as betrayed as I would have had my M not been dead for so long prior to her leaving, but I do feel somewhat betrayed in the fact that we were still technically married.

It's the same topic that was continuously discussed back and forth throughout my situation. Was it an affair or not. Vets like 25MLC and Cat didn't really see it as an A, whereas vets like you and Starsky did. What I ultimately decided for me is that it was somewhere in between. I don't expect you to agree with that, but that is where I am with it. And frankly, at this point, it really doesn't matter. I'm really in the "I'd rather be happy than right" mode on the whole subject.

With all of that said, I am still vigilant because I do realize that I have been burned before.