Newbie and ready for hard work

[dj21]

Taking a full day to decide on an action here. My H texted me stating he needed to pick up the kids early for his weekend if that would be okay. He hasn't texted me in a month, so of course I wanted to reply instantly. But I haven't. I have been taking a long time to really think through how I should handle this. First of all, I know the reason he is making the request, he and our D18 are heading out of town for an event she has. They need to leave a couple of hours earlier than when I am supposed to deliver our children. So, even though I shouldn't think about the why's of his actions, I am. Our other children aren't attending my D18's event, and so I believe the OW will be watching them. I suppose my brain is turning wondering why he just didn't have me do the regular routine, but not be there and have the OW "greet" me? Plus his request is for him to pick up our kids, I am required to deliver them to him and he has stood firm in not doing me any favors. I know it shouldn't matter. Just don't react and respond with an action that is opposite of what I have done in the past, right? Right? pfft...So instead of making up some excuse that he can't pick them up early, and that we have to stick to the scheduled time-( aka: saying NO), I need to say "yes" and just let it be...no questions, no controlling behavior, no drawn out conversation of how I have re-arranged things to accommodate his request....just a "yes, that should work" and let it be. Who knows, maybe I should look at this as a gift of not having to be face to face with the OW, that makes me thankful.