Difference between his sitch and yours is that his W came clean and admitted and apologized for everything about the A. That's how it's done.
Took a quick look at his sitch. Looks like there's a few differences.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce