Starsky, I do want to bring something up specifically with you, because your sitch was, for all intents and purposes quick over to the positive and (I don't know your position on this except for responsibility regardless, yet I do mention it for analytical purposes) your W was apparently not MLC.
And yes, at this time, at least for you, this is somewhat moot... what you did worked, and for you that's what matters... I just mean that in a subjective kind of way...
What I wonder though is... I know this sounds crazy... your W still remember the good guy you were when you went AtLRT and Ultimatum on her...
Do you believe that is likely?
I ask because I do wonder at the speed it worked for you and your W's "reason" (your charm and wit) for choosing to R.