I'm only on like post 15,000 or so of this thread and I am sure people saw this and will spotlight it...
Starsky, Denver, LITB, I think Jack and even 25 (who has been absent this topic) do certainly have one thing in common...
Their spouses confided that what really did convince them to come back, was not shame, financial loss, fear of being alone, etc, etc...
Rather, it was fear, yes... it was the fear of loosing their best friend, a great person, the love of their life, etc...
And I'd say that was in the face of an OP...
The LBS really does need to present as someone the WAS might desire, or desire more than the alternative, for them to first change their mind... and may or may not be important the LBS takes the tough stance of closing the door metaphorically... some DO come back before the door is closed... others may waver and might need that incentive...
