Should I initiate R talk?

[MrBond]

"refuses to see what she's doing or hear what others are saying."

No. She is seeing what she's doing and hearing what others are saying. She's just CHOOSING to not see them as negatives. She's seeing this as an opportunity for her to finally be free and be whom she's always wanted to be. She can now drop the chains and burden of a husband and child and live the life she's always wanted. Of course, she's blocked out the fact that she also chose to get married in the first place.

You're accepting the fact that you can't force her to change and that change must be made on her own. This is a good thing. What are your plans for your D?