New to DB

[mamabird]

It may be time to try to detach. If you can, you may "get over a hump" so to speak. Someone on another thread mentioned a NY Times article called "Those Aren't Fighting Words, Dear." You should read it. The woman who wrote it, Laura Munson, somehow handled her situation with aplomb - like she honestly didn't give a rats a$$ what her H did. And he came back. She also wrote a book about it, which I think I'm going to read.

We all know how hard this is - we've been there, and we ARE there. Detaching may help you and also may help him realize that maybe you aren't always going to be there for him.

I also write a blog. A month ago, I posted this:

http://livefrominsideout.tumblr.com/post/27108920210/happy-re-birthday

I put links to it on my FB page, and obviously someone sent it to my H (he defriended me on FB). The next day, I got a notification he was following my blog (too bad he couldn't have done this before we separated). As soon as he read that post, his attitude TOTALLY changed... he went from not talking to me or looking at me to kind of talking to me and looking at me (a big step up). Once your H realizes you are GALing he may soften up.

There are a lot of good posts on detachment on this board and I encourage you to seek them out. As soon as he thinks you've stopped caring, you may see a change in him.