Should I initiate R talk?

[Arsene]

Thanks MrBond, Hopefulinga and scaredsilly,

It helps to hear what you guys think of the situation. I can see the victim in her so much but there's also a side of her which seems to be playing ostrich. She's got her head in the sand and refuses to see what she's doing or hear what others are saying.

There comes a time when you have to tell yourself that if everyone is saying the same thing, there must be some truth in it but I feel that for now, she might still be infatuated with OM, no matter how hard it is in this country to have an affair (you need to show a marriage certificate to get a room with a woman and police regularly raids seedy hotels and puts adulterers in jail - Boarding houses are unisex and many have curfews).

As someone was saying earlier in my thread (maybe 25), they aren't having a great time at it because I also don't think that the A is in the open within her circle of friends. People here are very judgmental and put a lot of weight on character (even though they is a lot of hypocrisy).

Strangely enough, I do feel better. I think I might be over the "feeling sorry for myself" stage and moving on to acceptance. More on this later.

Thanks,