My marriage was far from being perfect, thing is we never talked about our finances before we got married. He's the type to spend money in extravagant things specially gadgets, tools or car stuff...Me in the other hand I'm more conscious about spending, I'm not saying I'm a cheapskate or anything. My parents divorced when I was 12 and my dad just took off and my mom went on welfare for 6 months because my dad left us with nothing, and when I mean nothing is nothing! He withdrew my mother s savings account (they had a joint account). Since that trauma of being on welfare and going to food banks I've become a penny saver-nothing wrong with that! Anyways, so My H and I were so caught up in the love whirlwind that we never talked about money, but whenever I mentioned an unnecessary expense he'd get all upset so I stopped talking about it-and I blame myself for it...( Before I kicked him out I found out he racked almost 20 something thousand dollars in debt!) Besides being an Emotional cheater he was in debt! I told him that we needed a financial ad visor and stuff and he got upset!...Now H is living at his friends apartment, sleeping on their couch and drinking his sorrows away on booze. I know we can can save our marriage, but he's stubborn and too aggravated to talk to me or his family members.
