MrBond-hi and thanks for the straight forward blunt smack to my head for a reality check-I like that approach-please keep it up. No, not really ok with him being a certifiable lunatic, and have not talked with anyone professional about this as I am not sure who I would talk with.
Hard question-I would love to save the relationship if he got some help. More than that though I am ok if we cannot be together, if he would just get some help and get past this craziness so he could be happy again. I mourn so terribly for the interesting man he was, and I guess I feel responsible for his current actions since he was normal before I blew up his world dumping him. And I greatly fear that he will commit suicide or ruin his life in other ways because of what I did to him.
I certainly should not goad him and make no excuses for doing that. I know I am responsible for the situation with the slut girl as I goaded him into that and dated others too. So I am stopping contact with him for a period-unsure how long as he already contacted me twice today on FB and once via email. Any advice? ANd as to appearing as he needs, again guilty as charged. I know I have to stop bailing him out of messes. If he wants to be an adult then he has to take care of himself but I get sucked in when he turns to me and asks for help, my tendency to fix and care for him I suppose. I did tell him I was tired of being his mother and just wanted to be a wife, but a few weeks later again he calls crying and begging for help. So I suppose trying to save him is my answer although I do take pleasure in him still needing me on some level I suppose. But that is stopping today I assure you. And yes, an odd sick reaction to him threatening my life but then I never really took the threats seriously until this last week even though he told me once he meant them at the time he said them but not any longer. Also, I suppose with my history of physical viuolence in relationships I am just not scared of anything anymore.
