Starsky, I did want to say, great job on the reveal.
I do want to say that when it comes to taking a good hard look at what one believes in and living by those ethics, you rank right up in the #1 spot.
I know when you were posting to me, there was a lot of what you mentioned that did and still does hold true. FWIW, I very clearly went the route of "I will NOT live in an open M". And for better or for worse, I left the home (it really was the right choice at the time, from my perspective. Still believe it was, for me and the kids.)
That said, for me, that and finally getting to the meat and potatoes of DBing... didn't work, for me... Likely a lot of reasons, such as very little contact, my emotional roller coaster, the time it took to really start GALing.
And I do believe that, while I still very quietly state that my W MIGHT be MLC... my W's... state of mind... basically put her in a mindset that the M was over, which again for me was odd, because she avoided filing D and only reluctantly, and under pressure by me, we finally went the legal S route.
Yes... each sitch, even as things are similar in many sitches... is certainly unique...
BTW: I am glad you outed yourself as a pushover / nice guy...
