This is great advice right here. Our first seperation my wife was dating someone and she avoided me like you wouldnt believe, when I would show up to pick up the kids she'd be waiting and have them headed out the door to meet me before I could ever get out of the truck. I can look back now and see that she didnt even want to look at me. And it was obvious when they had a bit of a rough patch b/c then she'd be more willing to talk to me. I distinctly remember it was round Christmas and I guess things weren't good between them...she and I talked about going to the movies with the boys the evening of the 23rd or something like that. Well this was about the 20th or so, come the 23rd I call her about goign to the movies and suddenly she's kind of tired, doesn't really think she wants to go etc etc.
I find out a day or two later that her and OM took my boys to the movies on the 23rd....apparently the rough patch was over between them, and I guess going to the movies that night was a great idea, just not a great idea to go with me.
Sorry for my little trip down memory lane, but Accuray is spot on, if there is an OM in the picture you will know for sure. And if you act as if....and continue on your journey, you'll be able to see in her actions toward you how they are getting along at the time. But im with Accuray....your W isn't showing you signs of an OM, she's showing signs of someone who is starting to see what they like and remember you changing now will at least in the beginning cause her to be plenty angry. She'll get mad that it took this extreme measure to get you to change when she thinks she's been telling you all along what your seeing now.
