Should I initiate R talk?

[hopefulinga]

She could be in a 'victim' mode where she wants people to feel sorry for her. from anyone.

And in fact, she probably did demonize you to others in order to justify her decision. All WAS's do that. You should have heard what my W accused me of. Let her deal with her own craziness.

Ain't that the truth. My H can make me sound like the worst person on the face of the planet. I cannot tell you how many people have told me that my H said all kinds of nasty stuff about me, but the more they learned about him and me, the more they learned he was the problem. That's not to say that I don't have my share of problems and haven't contributed to the marital issues. I'm also dealing with "victim" mode.

You know in your mind and heart how you treated her. Remember, we're only supposed to believe 1/2 of what we hear.