Should I initiate R talk?

[MrBond]

You're doing well so far. She could be in a 'victim' mode where she wants people to feel sorry for her. Well I'm sorry to tell you that if there's a mom who leaves her child for her own selfish needs, then you probably aren't going to get much sympathy from anyone.

And in fact, she probably did demonize you to others in order to justify her decision. All WAS's do that. You should have heard what my W accused me of. Let her deal with her own craziness.