Oh and remember that there is only so much that you can do. She has to decide that she wants to be where you are before you can lift her up. Otherwise it will just be another source of friction in your R. Focus on the things which you can control, which is yourself.
M 39, W 34 M 15 S 14, S 12, S 9, D 7, D 6 Separated: 7/2/2012 Served: 7/10/2012 Divorced 11/5/2012