That is a good question and one that I cannot entirely answer for you since I don't know your W. I would start by figuring out what her love language is and trying to fill her life with as much love from you as she will let you. Of course this is easier said then done. Try performing little acts of service for her is my first suggestion. I don't know if this is against the 37 rules or not but try paying her a complement or two every day. And like KC said, don't have any expectations of her.
M 39, W 34 M 15 S 14, S 12, S 9, D 7, D 6 Separated: 7/2/2012 Served: 7/10/2012 Divorced 11/5/2012
