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she told her mother there was no one else. and that she was depressed. when asked about me, W replied, "he's fine. too fine. i feel like we're on different levels in this R and i don't know how to get to his level."

That is not a good thing to hear. However you deal with it try and lift her to your level; do not try and bring yourself to hers. That is a big mistake I made when things started going bad with my W. She told me about a relationship she had with a guy while in high school where he basically used her for sex and then discarded her. She had been holding on to this guilt for years and told me "I don't think I am worthy of you." My big mistake was that instead of trying to lift her up at that point I told her that I had struggled with pornography during a period during our marriage and basically said "it's okay we all make mistakes." Unfortunately that set her off in exactly the opposite direction I had wanted things to go and she ended up deciding that my sin had made me not worthy of her. So the big advice that I can give is that any time she gives you the chance to talk to her don't lower yourself to where she thinks she is; try and lift her to where she thinks you are.