Interpretation of MWD and DR regarding infidelity

[Some Day]

About Trust...

This is me, this is 100% true in my case and I think, believe it should be true for almost everyone here.

I gave it back to my wife far too soon, it wasn't earned and it wasn't deserved.

Because I did that? I was a fool, and I was mad at her for what? Because I wanted to trust her and she didn't deserve it? Because SHE made me a fool...hehe...notice that? I made it her fault. When it was in fact mine. Wanting something badly doesn't make it happen.


I believe in Starsky's point...with an addition.

Trust must be earned by them BUT;
Trust must be verified, by you.

And only when they want it and only when you can give it.

So true JTB. I made the same mistake. Trusted too soon, did not verify. And what happened? H started the affair back up again about two weeks after he came back home to 'reconcile.' I blame myself. I wanted things to go back to normal overnight, without doing the hard work and having the tough conversations with H. I was a doormat because I was just so happy he was back home.