elaborated on the distinction between how much time it takes for PIECING, versus you don't necessarily have to endure an open affair during that entire time. It was truly one of the best posts I've ever written.
Hmmm... maybe what I was really doing from Feb 2011 through now WAS really a long period of piecing with ups and downs... Never looked at it that way, but maybe.
You know my sitch very well Starsky... what do you think?
Yes, I think that's accurate. For those that don't have as clear-cut of lines drawn between the "affair" stage and the "reconcilation" stage (for example, wayward spouse has fits and starts of no-contact with OP), I do think there is overlap then.
More accurately, though, I think what you have is ONE person piecing -- in this case, YOU -- while the other is still wayward. Even if they ATTEMPT to begin piecing/reconcilation, their continued contact with OM/OW sets them back and keeps their PEAs flowing and they remain largely blocked to noticing the betrayed spouse's improvements.
