A New Phase?

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I'm not moving any time soon. And H would rather live in my city, but his work is primarily in OW's.

I'm in CA. OW is in a cold, midwestern city. The "ironic" thing is that I'm from there, and we lived there for our entire marriage until 2 years ago. So, I have friends and extended family there. And, I'm currently living in one of the most expensive cities in the US--so at some point, I could have a much nicer house, etc. if I moved. I could also return to my former job in that city.

However, now, that place is "tainted" by OW and I have no desire at all to feed into H's choices and make things easy for him.

I'm sort of in agreement with you about the kids, kml. I also just think it's a matter of time before they discover something or he does something else that's stupid. But, I'll express my reservations to him and I am also going to push to settle our finances right now.