Rough: Sounds like a really good interaction to me. Always leave them wanting more, and also leave them wondering why your so dang pleasant. I think when people see someone this way, whether its a friend a spouse or anyone else they wonder what this person has that makes them that way and thats exactly what you want your W to wonder. Im gonna post soon in my thread about this but thought i'd tell you now...mine has texted my fingers off for the last 36 hours or so. I dont know what has changed, and I don't respond either immediately, or to all of them, but she sure seems to be interested in texting me recently.
And don't let your mind wander too far into the OM territory. I will tell you that from my experience, even without OM mine was often running late and looking somewhat disheveled. I think its b/c their not nearly as happy alone as they would want us to think. I know years ago after our first seperation was over that mine was quick to admit that she didnt sleep well, didnt eat much and was generally a wreck during the whole thing.
Remember your wife is also having to think about not only the things you say and the things she sees in you, but she's also having to relive the things she says to you, and I think thats especially hard when they say something "mean" like her divorce comment, and don't get the fight they were looking for in return. In addition to that she's having to stay in a bed alone, and when your kids aren't there possibly in a house alone for the first time in a long time and while that may seem like a party to her at first b/c she doesnt have to worry about anyone but herself, at some point its kind of saddening to them I think....especially when no one calls to say goodnight, or no one is there to say good morning.
