The weekend was an emotional one for us. My D is a drama queen and she brought it to another level. You see she's at that teenage stage where she's happy at one point, then sad a minute later. My W was at work when D had an episode. It was not pretty. My BIL got involved which was none of his buisness. Well my W comes home from work early b/c ... I took D phone away for disrespecting me.
My W and I talked. She told me I was a bad dad. This didn't go over too good with me. Somehow in the end of our conversation we came up with the same conclusion. We need to work on our communication skills whether we're married or divorced. It may sound like a nobrainer to some, but for her this is something new.
Do you think you are a bad dad? From everything I have read I believe that is NOT the case. F what your W says man.
God Bless Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Fixer, She's projecting on to you once again. You are not a bad dad. That comment is nothing more than a load of bs.
Someone give that woman a mirror so that she can take a good, long, hard look at herself!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Wow thanks! I know it's bs too. It hurt to hear her say it. I reminded W I am in our M for our D. If I am a bad dad and somehow you brainwash our D then there will be no reason for me to stay. Our D needs a mom right now and my wife is coming across as a super mom. Funny this is something we had a difficult time grasping with her XH and sons relationship.
Life can be unfair but I didn't think it would be this difficult.
No need to "remind" her and 2) is this what you want? Cause dude, you could have your D and not be in this M. Not suggesting that at all...just pointing it out.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
I agree with you I didn't have remind her. I need to see a MC on my own before I can figure out why I can't leave my D
FYI - If I left my wife awhile ago, she would have left my D alone with a pedophiler so she could go out and party. My wife didn't know this guy was one but I had a bad feeling about this person. I use to RUSH home from work when she said this guy was watching D!!
BTW My wife still thinks she didn't do anything wrong. I use to constantly tell her I didn't want D to be alone with him. She always though I was trying to stop her from having fun. The reason why she didn't think she did anything wrong was because she didn't know he was a pedophiler. Whatever happened to a mothers instinct?
I need to see a MC on my own before I can figure out why I can't leave my D
When is your appt?
and who says you have to LEAVE your D. She can choose to come with YOU AND SHE CAN and WILL still have an R with her Mom.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
I have the name of a MC. There's a few things I need to get out of the way before I make my first appointment. One thing is my work schedule is changing. Until I know my new hours Its difficult to plan sessions.
My D has already told me she will stay with her mom. I valued all the time we have together. There's some deep abandonment issues I have which was discovered from our previous councillor. Until I can sort this and some other psychological issues it's best for me to stay. If I could be certain that D would leave with me... I would of been gone yesterday.
You maybe saying this sounds like a bunch of excuses. It could be but for me there not
