This was one of the bouncy buggers. Big downer at about 3:00 in the p.m.
Thankfully my bestest friend and better half (and son) came round for me to rest my weary shoulder upon.
Have a strong feeling it wasn't about my W this time. A colander invite from "boss" who is actually partner arrived asking for meeting next Wednesday. I can do without this sh1t in my life at the moment.
I'll not show my other half what she's causing to me.
There was a letter which I opened by mistake. Was from her L A bill for R5,100 for services remdered. Someone paid R4,000. Wasn't me. My female bestest says it wouldn't surprise her if the "friend" paid for it on the understanding that I'd be paying the W R5,000 to the W per month to stay away. Not happened not will it. I can see "friend" being tapped out very soon (like last time). She's also not working so money is going to be very tight for the pair of them. Shame.
Just been watching Happy Feet II. Pink! was superb at the end singing Queens "under pressure".
Been busy fixing the house up. Candles been replaced in the candelabra, metal covers on the hot plates, new glass tea, coffee and sugar containers. Just to make me feel better. And the home.
That's it for today. Putting the dogs to bed. Picking u a book and reading till I drop off.
This was one of the bouncy buggers. Big downer at about 3:00 in the p.m.
Thankfully my bestest friend and better half (and son) came round for me to rest my weary shoulder upon.
Have a strong feeling it wasn't about my W this time. A colander invite from "boss" who is actually partner arrived asking for meeting next Wednesday. I can do without this sh1t in my life at the moment.
I'll not show my other half what she's causing to me.
There was a letter which I opened by mistake. Was from her L A bill for R5,100 for services remdered. Someone paid R4,000. Wasn't me. My female bestest says it wouldn't surprise her if the "friend" paid for it on the understanding that I'd be paying the W R5,000 to the W per month to stay away. Not happened not will it. I can see "friend" being tapped out very soon (like last time). She's also not working so money is going to be very tight for the pair of them. Shame.
Just been watching Happy Feet II. Pink! was superb at the end singing Queens "under pressure".
Been busy fixing the house up. Candles been replaced in the candelabra, metal covers on the hot plates, new glass tea, coffee and sugar containers. Just to make me feel better. And the home.
That's it for today. Putting the dogs to bed. Picking u a book and reading till I drop off.
Thanks for popping by Serenity.
Truly appreciated.
((((As always))))
Mac
I swear sometimes I feel I need a translator when I am reading your posts.
I am curious as to the answer for the question CB asked you... Is the wife involved with the friend?
((((Hugs))))
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
Come on serenity. I thought you knew how to read my waffle by now
Depends on which friend.
My female best friend (complete with her better half) was our bridesmaid and groom.
The "friend" is exactly that. A poisonous b1tch from the pits of hell. Honestly - if you asked anyone that question they'd be busy throwing up into the grass. It's such a gross idea. Not having them under video surveillance I can't honestly say.
Right - now back from the toilet after a thorough throw-up - Malindi had been hooked again by this b one tee h (just in case the profanity filter kicks in).
She thinks the woman is so kind and helpful to my W in her greatest need. That's why the W is acting as the nurse. The "friend" had been to hospital for a knee op.
Is that cleared up both?
Need to go finish Pitza and lovely veggies
Catch u tomorrow. Time on my hands. Public holiday. Woman's Day!!!!!!!!!
Going to be a long weekend. Best friends are upcountry with their three year old. John isn't going to be up on his feet - liver problems. No backstop to fall back on - they're the only people who know the full story and how I feel.
Yes I know it should be feeling better now. Letting go the rope. GAL. But I still have my moments.
Like now. Just got home. Our little Jack Russel was shivering because she didn't have her dog cover on. No W. She's spending all her time at "friends" house. Every bloody minute. How's THAT for dropping the rope. So very very Self Centred with not a shred of sympathy or compassion. She's becoming "friend" mk II.
No I'm not snooping. Just have another friend who lives around the corner. So - now it's become a lot easier (?). Not having the W's face in front of me. No cell calls. The odd text like this from yesterday……
Quote:
Yes having a awesome time with Julia, Janet, Jane and Keith. Women's day today.
So. Full steam ahead. Two can play silly buggers. Sorry to say this but I'm going into the dark as far as my W is concerned. She can find happiness in "friends" house. Where the following will be getting at her……
1. Relying on others for pocket money, drinks, food, shelter, cigarets, cloths, toiletries and the list goes on.
2. Having "friend" in her face (and vice versa) 24/7 - not going to last long.
3. Having to act as chauffeur, nurse, cleaning lady for "friend".
Yes I KNOW I shouldn't even be thinking about this but sorry - already happened.
People re: the last post specifically going dark - I really need to do lots of self mending:
1. Getting out of the chaos. 2. Breathing space (for us both) 3. Stop, stop, STOP bugging the life out of W 4. Using it to do a 180. Stop trying to fix things all the damn time!
Sparky put it so very well in a post he made……
Going dark is the chance to work on you and to allow the spouse that left you to go through the journey they need to go through. If you start butting into that when they have made it clear that they don't want to be with you, then you come off as someone who is not honoring their request. You are short-circuiting the journey they have to go through to work out what is going on inside themselves.
I know this is as painful for my W as it is for me. I don't wish this on her. But it's something I have to respect.
Communication channels are fully functional!
Off to see the "friend around the corner" for a coffee.
