Like I said above, I've done some snooping. But I really, really don't want to do that.
That's the beauty of a full transparency plan -- no need to snoop. Just the credible threat of being discovered is enough to help them fight the temptation.
Think of world nations: it's the "credible threat of force" vs. the need for ACTUAL force.
Starsky
or it will just force the person to go deeper underground and make things more hidden while giving the appearance of transparency...it's a win win for the cheater.
I mean with technology today it's fairly easy to get a prepaid phone, cover your computer tracks, hide, manipulate. That's why I think at some point - transparency plan or not - you have to trust on your own. That's the hard part.
full disclosure - I say this because my wife did not and could not give me transparency on her work email. (my wife works in health care and she frequently transmits patient information via email. To allow me access would be a HIPPA violation and could get her or her work in trouble) Just like I'm a L and couldn't let my wife have access to my work email due to client confidentiality.
Agreed. Even if I were to work at verifying every day, there is no way of knowing anything for sure. Like I said, I may not trust my W 100% yet, but I do trust my instincts.
You may NEVER be able to trust her or anyone else for that matter at 100.0%. If you find that your wife generally stands for you and does not decieve you in ways that are detremental to you and you can trust her at 97.5%, would that really be considered failure?
