incidentally as an aside - are you guys saying that if you had the opportunity to get the inside scoop on what was really really going on with your spouses, you would just refuse to hear about it? that's not a question directed only to you starsky, but to everyone
I would like to comment on it, however. It always amazes me that people will say:
1. Depending on what is really going on (for some, it's whether or not there's an affair at all; for others, it's maybe whether it's an EA or a PA; etc) . . . it's a dealbreaker.
2. Then they say they don't want to do what's necessary to find out what's really going on.
I guess "ignorance really IS bliss," as they say. Personally, I'd much rather determine the accurate TRUTH of the situation, and then deal with that accordingly.
