oh star sky! - why is it that when i ask you questions you always come back in battle mode?
Wasn't in "battle mode" at all, zig -- you'd KNOW it if I was. I took your all-caps "SHEESH!" to be more argumentative than my upper-and-lower-case, simple question of "Why do you suppose this (someone's certainty) bothers you so much?"
Well, you WANTED me to ask questions, so I did.
In all seriousness, men are simple creatures and I'm probably on the simpler end of even the man-scale. I don't do navel-gazing well (much to the chagrin of a couple of my friends who constantly ask me for some deeper, more complex explanation for what it is I'm advocating). So my posts tend to be short and direct, and I know that's not everyone's bag, and so I'm sorry if I'm not explaining the "why" behind my advice as often as would be helpful for you.
I'm going to try to use one or two of your most-recent posts, and go thru it and answer your specific questions. Would that be more helpful?