Ok, last post I promise! Sorry to be so full of joy and comments this morning. Normally I am a very private person who has not shared much of this with anyone. Why is it that I seem have the potential to p*ss him off no matter what I do or say? He even commented that I am the only person in the world who makes him mad like that. He claims to otherwise be a very happy and even tempered person. (Actually that is not true, but it is how he sees things.)
After reading here, I have tried several different responses to his baiting. For example, I tried just saying “Ok it’s your choice” but that sends him into orbit. When he got a new phone and refused to give me the number, I said “Ok it’s your choice” and went about doing what I was doing before that came up. He screamed for 10 minutes about how he knew it was his choice and he was exercising that choice. I just said “Great.” Funny thing is the next morning he called and left his new number. But now when I say that line to other things he responds with things such as “of course it is my choice, and I will do what I want. What the h*ll is the matter with you? I know it is my choice. You are crazy and need some mental help.” I ignore that stupidity and do not respond.
About that time he floored me by saying, “If you really loved me, you would want me back.” What??? I am the one who had been trying but almost gave up. I think he sensed that I was moving on with my life and perhaps was angry. Who knows?
Then I tried, “I am sorry that you feel that way.” He responded with “it’s your fault I feel this way”, “you are baiting me”, “you are provoking me”, “you are attacking me”, “you have turned against me”. Now it is just dead silence when I say that, and he rolls his eyes. Although to be fair, at times he admits it is him and seems confused and sad, more so lately and much more so when he does not have the chance to talk to the little girl to borrow courage from her.
Lastly, when he goes nuts on me on the phone, I tried, “Call me back when you can talk to me like I am a person,” and hung up on him. That went on five times before his phone went dead so he could not call. Then he messaged me on FB saying “I HATE when you say that!!!!!” “Stop it right now or I will never talk to you again and I will un-friend you” I just wanted some peace and for it to all end so I replied, “So what.” And he un-friended me for a minute and a half after which he sent a series of 5 threatening messages to a guy he thought I was sleeping with, and then blocked him. Then he friended me again, and sent me a message telling me “See what I will do to you if you do not follow the rules.” I just started laughing at that point. I refused to respond and the next day he acted as though it had never happened. WTF was that? FB is so childish as is he. I felt as though I were back in high school again.
