Emotional affair

[ces67]

Hi Amelie,

First, I just have to say you are one of the most concise posters I've ever seen on this board!

So far your posts are very focused on the immediate circumstance. While there is nothing wrong with that, I want to encourage you to dig a little into yourself and your thinking.

What was it that got you both to this point? In any marriage, each spouse brings baggage with them that we don't even realize (at least this seems to be the case in about every post on this board!).

The emotions of these situations are strong and powerful. They can also be distracting to what you need to do to help yourself.

I'm sorry to hear about your H's drinking. If it every has a possibility to put you, your little one or others in danger, something must be done. Otherwise, your H has to make his own choices. Its ok to be sad about what choices he makes, but unfortunatly, you can't change that for him.

It may be that you're not quite ready to dig into all the parts that got your M to this point. That's OK, just acknowledge that and know that at some point, it all needs to be looked at to help you find understanding and growth.

Please know this, I am not saying or implying anthing regarding "fault". What I am saying is that if you read through posts on this board (and I encourage you to read other's stuff) you will see that people have taken time to deal with their own demons and grow from them. Regardless of the pain of the situation, you can grow from this. That growth may or may not help save your M, but it will be growth that will serve you well in life regardless.

Hope you're doing ok.