Details: He is twice divorced. I am once divorced. He says he is provoked to the violence, yelling, name calling, that when he is not with me he is a very happy calm person with no visible signs of temper problems. (Pure BS about the temper as others have noted to me including his mother and sisters). I am quick to forget what made me angry and my anger lasts seconds. He can remember things from 10 years ago that angered him while I cannot remember what started the fight two weeks ago until I look at email or IM's he sent. I tell him I am not mad at him, but he consistently says I am just fooling myself, and that I really am mad at him, and will never forget him. Frankly that is not the truth, I believe he is sick and cannot help this behavior really so I am not mad/I just want him to get some help.
Interesting that every time I say I don't care about x as related to him, or indicate that I differ in opinion about something, or if I dispute his analysis or refer to something as BS he goes nuts now, while we used to have such interesting conversations and debates about things-and in the end we would find out that much of what we debated was the same point just phrased differently. Then we would laugh and cuddle. Boy I miss those conversations.
