A few words of background on him and I. I was married to a physically abusive drunk and drug addict when we met. Exhusband would beat me physically and Cuckoo figured that out quickly. He was supportive and helped me during the divorce. Now the truth of the matter is that I am no shrinking violet and defended myself during those attacks. But Cuckoo is now raising the issue of how I was beaten and put up with it. The reality is that when Ex beat me, I fought back like a lion, even sending him to the hospital once after he threw me out of bed and beat my head on the bedroom wall for several minutes. When I got away I chased the man down the street with a real 2x4, and he never beat me again. But now cuckoo is swinging his hands in punching motions centimeters from my face when he gets mad talking of beating me etc. I am afraid that causes a flashback to my Ex and I just lose control eventually. This last time he did that, I held control of my temper for 7 minutes before I lost it when he threw a chair at me. Otherwise I just stood there looking at him, not answering, hoping he would wear himself out, but that just made him madder. Normally, he would never hit me, but I think he might be working up to that in his tirades. We can never outrun our pasts it seems.
