I just want to be friends...Pt3

[breakdownbill]

Hey that's what MWD says if something doesn't work try something different.

I do feel I'm walking on eggshells with him sometimes. He gives such mixed signals. This will probably be some protection mechanism he might not even be aware he is still using
But, you know Bill, I'm inspired by you. You are working towards being emotionally independent, and not being reactive and I still have work to do in that area. So, thanks again.

I do envy where you are at in your sitch YC, you guys have spent the time apart & are now dating again. It's not going to be like it was when you first met & started dating, there will be bumps in the road & it'll be rocky, but it's definitely worth the effort to give it another shot.

My goal has got to become emotionally independent, because right now like so many on here I have the obstacle of OP.

Unless that changes any goals I have that would bring us closer to a possible R that include my W, have to be put on hold.

I'm looking at myself as a house that is beat up & needs some renovating before anyone else can enjoy living in it. The only difference is that money can't pay for someone else to fix me up I have to do it brick by brick and when I'm ready I'll decide who I want to live in it with me.

I'm happy and proud that you didn't throw in the towel & you can see things slowly getting better with your H. There aren't enough success stories on here where couples do R