Interpretation of MWD and DR regarding infidelity

[Denver_2010]

but as accuray and many others point out, it's a process for many of us -

Yes. That is the bottom line. It is a process and it is different for each of us. Every situation is unique. I have always said that one must take the DB principles and apply them to their unique situation. Take all of the advice that you get, follow what you think WILL WORK for you, and throw out the rest. That's what I did.

Starsky did it in 2 months, I did it in 18 months. I don't think Starsky is any tougher than me or prideful... sorry Starsky. I just think that his situation was different than mine. For example, I was a terrible H and BF in many ways to my W for 7 1/2 years. Not in every aspect, but in many. I caused my W hurt that I knew was not going to heal easily or quickly. For me, 2 months was simply not enough time.

Starsky was a pain in my A$s at times! But he helped me a lot even though I didn't always follow his advice. Hell, Jack3beans, 25MLC, Truegritter and many, many others all helped me a lot. But I didn't always follow their advice.

So MY advice is not to follow advice blindly. Do WHAT WORKS for you and your unique situation.

And in defense of Starsky he did say that "we are all different".