Still Afloat and moving Forward

[WenikiTiki]

Dear BeingMe,

All I can think when I read your thread is that maybe it it time to find your beginners mind and rethink this whole thing.

I wish I had more to say.

[BeingMe]

Hi Wendy! I thought of that, but ultimately, I feel like I'm just spinning around. He has said he's not in love with me a couple of times, and not interested in "trying" again (just 2 weeks ago), so I must take him at his word. I need to move on. I'm one of the lucky ones, that he isn't mean, and in fact, friendly and generous. If that continues once the process of D is set in motion, remains to be seen. He wants to be separated ... it's convenient for him, but no longer for me.

I don't know what else I can do except to end it.

[forward]

Being,
If he's said this just recently, I can understand why you are ready to move on.

[BeingMe]

Well, we've just had a bit of a tiff. You know, if one is safe in the marriage, a tiff means nothing, but I could tell from the sound of his voice and the pity party he was having that he really is finished as well. I may be imagining it, but I know him too well. We have become so detached, that we have no patience with each other and no empathy either. I too am to blame ... it's been too long that he has been away, and promises are broken continuously, that I have no idea how I can ever trust him again. So, I am very keen to move on. We just have to untangle our financial stuff. When I get back home, I will find a financial advisor to help me with getting me on track with that part of my life.

Blah blah blah! LOL Same ol' story. He will never change, and now I have decided that I will not either. Here I am, having my own pity party. Hahahaha! At least it's a party, 'eh!

[BeingMe]

Time to start a new thread ... 10 pages is long enough.

Here it is: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2269695