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Lawyer before mediator, definitely. They can help you better understand your rights, responsibilities and threats.


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Originally Posted By: Starsky309
Lawyer before mediator, definitely. They can help you better understand your rights, responsibilities and threats.


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Seconded. Even if you just go for an hour, the peace of mind you'll gain from being informed will be more than worth it.

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thanks starsky and vera - i will get on it tomorrow!


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"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"

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Zig,

Don't have a lot of time right now, just 2 things...

I already have a meditation apt, though it's in 3 months, just in case things with the d move forward. I figured it never hurts...

And as for getting external info-
H and I have a mutual friend that would comment on what he is up to, his latest fb post, ect and I asked her to stop. It took me long enough to stop focusing on his actions, I don't need someone undoing that. It took a lot for me to take a stand on that (I did it with everyone who knows us/our sitch), but in the end it was the healthiest thing for me.

Lots o love ziggy pie! wink


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look at you... all up in the "Interpretation" thread...

cool

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???

interpretation thread? confused


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"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"

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The one about interpreting MWD's take on DB and infidelity...

oh... NVM... grin

Hope you are doing well...

{{{zig}}}

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KD!!!! you voluntarily gave me a hug cool

as for NVM - what the heck is that

i am doing much better - at many things -accepting where i am right now.

viewing my sitch and h WITHOUT taking into consideration the behind the scenes info i've recieved recently

worked really hard and focused today - a first!!

obviously did the right things with s, because he kissed me without me asking (bloody unneedy 11 yr olds grin )

still not sure what to do about the family events this weekend - but you know, the answer will come when it does...

and how are you, dear friend? i'm dying to ask you lots of questions. some of the stuff you wrote about what your w said - are you, like, keeping "developments to yourself?? ??

i'm glad you started that thread = it's a great discussion. why do i think it was partly for my benefit.......?

{{{KD}}} with a smile


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okay just for fun... and faith...


You can't just shut someone out of your life because you don't like the way they entered in the first place. Similarly, you can't just decide to end a relationship because of one particularly bad day, or because of a single attitude problem. You will need to have faith in someone who may not have merited faith. If you can do this, a very promising change will occur.

my horoscope for tomorrow grin


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Zig,

I really want you to go with your friends on Friday. Am I allowed to say that? lmao. Just sayin', I really really think it will be good for you to establish ZIG and get some blasted breathing room away from the il's

NVM= nevermind smile

And would wise ol' KD be hiding developments in his own sitch from us??? We should drag him to the blanket. A few rounds of the black label and we won't be able to get him to shut up! Love ya KD

love you too Zig


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role reversal 03/2012
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