I really feel for you. I understand the need to converse for the kids. I did that. But I realised after a lot of time, it still did nothing to change his behaviour...and I could not control that. It took me a long time to realise that trying to define his relationship with his kids was not my business. It really sux because we shouldn't have to encourage a healthy relationship with our kids and their fathr/mother. We believe it should be as natural as it is for us. It is not on this sitch.
I am not yet sure why....I don't understand it. But it is the reality. And the truth is that we have to deal with the reality of our situations. So that means WE have to be the best parent...solid...caring, a friggen ROCK for our children...and you know...it made me realise I always want to be that ROCK with or without the support of my H.
Get yourself out of hell. You have to find your way out. Its you and the three little ones. You are so strong, a wonderful mother a wonderful person. I know you can see your way out. Go.
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
