In home separation? Off / On? Still WAW? Dunno

[breakdownbill]

Yep these are good additions to that list

4. Stops being so selfish.
5. Pulls her weight.
6. Follows through on commitment.
7. Realizes her shortcomings need to be worked on.
8. Figures out boredom is no excuse to sleep with another man

You know what I'd never even thought about getting a cleaner in, but that would have been a massive help even if it was just for a couple of hours once a week.

My W did change her hours from part time in the evening to full time in the daytime and I would spend most weekends towards the end of my course terms in the library while she had the kids on her own.

However, this was because she didn't want to put in the effort with the day to day stuff and that's why I'd end up needing to cram loads of work in during weekends away from her & the kids.

I think the way she is won't change unless she has to, in reality that means me not being there.

I used to think if we went to MC we'd be able to address some of these issues, now I think it would take a lot more than that, but it would still be worthwhile and a good start.