second time newcomer, back for more

[ericmsant2]

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The thing is that at least at this point she is not going to find anyone who is better then you

WHEN YOU REALLY and I mean REALLY FEEL THIS ^^^^ (what Nascar posted) then you will not be afraid buddy.

Maybe she just is tired of being committed or she's not in love anymore or ?????

And DO YOU think you can CONTROL HER? If that is HOW she FEELS….then that is HOW she FEELS. Sounds shitty I know… FEELINGS THOUGH change. RIGHT now you are FOCUS ON how SHE FEELS vs HOW YOU FEEL. In short, you have given her the POWER in the R. YOU need to work on FEELING BETTER yourself FIRST.

I don't want to be 'that guy', but I forgave her for infidelity, and helped her raise OM's child. I've loved her unconditionally For the past 3 years since, being everything she wanted me to be. I don't know how someone else could be better ?

Then DON’T be that GUY! The way to NOT be that GUY is to really LOVE YOURSELF and KNOW WHO you are. Does that mean that you will never feel sad or mad…NOPE. It just means that you know that you are a catch and know that you are treating her like a lady.

Also, she has NOT said that she wants out – nor has she really spoken to YOU about HOW she is feeling (at least as it relates to her questioning the M).

Let me give you another perspective…..(and this may seem to be like mind reading – it is not – it is only a perspective)

What if she is questioning the M right now….she is feeling overwhelmed by everything and based on her history AFRIAD to talk to YOU about it for FEAR that you may take it the wrong way. What if what she needs right now is to see you be a man and stand by her while she works HER own chit out?

In the above, you are freaking out…and she is probably picking up on it. Hence, go out, go for a walk, take stock of who YOU are..and give her the SPACE she may need to work through it.

Try to create some attraction and do something DIFFERENT (db101).

Gotten attached to her since our separation. Really got in tune with each other.

Attached or Codependent?

Stop BREATH……. BC…STOP and BREATH….

Do not let the PAST of the TWO of YOU DEFINE YOUR FUTURE!

Eric