Sorry Harrier I disagree. What you call semantics I call verification vs spying.
2 paths.
path 1. I think there is something going on. I cannot quite figure out what it is so instead of accusing I am going to observe and verify. Gather facts and then either work on why I had those thoughts or confront.
path 2. I am a jealous spouse so I am going to constantly check up on my spouse with these means when she has done no wrong.
A classic example can be.
Observation:
Teenage son school work drops , is always tired and no longer engaged.
Determine if the issue is that the boy is staying up all night on the computer , doing drugs or alcohol or is dealing with depression.
This is done by verifying what they are doing when they are on the computer, talking to teachers and if needed a physical at the doctors.
Then communicating to the boy about the issue and resolving it.
No spying and no snooping.
Observation, Verification.
BINGO.
I'm sure someone will (again) give the usual "at some point, you have to trust." To that, I say "Trust must be earned."
