I think so. I see ways that discovery/D be slightly delayed but I don't see any benefit in that for me now. There's really not much to delay at this point and while I could not consent to the D, which would require that 2 years pass from the separation date before D would be granted, I think it would be better for me to just let it go before that.
I would require changes from stbx that he has proven in the past he is not capable of making long term (e.g. NC from past EA(s)). I now see more clearly the impact of red flags I ignored early on. I am M until I am not, but I am not getting any younger and I'd like a family in a healthy R down the line. I feel like I fought for the M and stbx has done nothing but run away.
So yes, i would say I'm looking at my next steps beyond M.
