--We have met with a counselor who had excellent advice on why the kids meeting the OW now would be a BAD idea. He told H to move out of the house to at least start the process of having the kids understand our marriage is ending. (and I believe to make H start experiencing reality). That was in response to H wanting to take the kids to OW's city. This new amusement park idea in our city seems like a "light" version of what H was thinking before.
I continue to think this is a bad idea until we are at least divorced. I just need to decide my response and how to get that across to H. Frankly, the counselor was mainly worried about the kids relationship with H and OW if they introduce the relationship to the kids too soon. I'm more worried about protecting my girls from H's behavior and protecting their view of marriage.
--H doesn't have a lawyer yet. He hasn't made any response to my divorce filing (although our 6 month clock in California is ticking and is up in September)
--My divorce filing says H can't take the kids out of state without permission and he has respected that. You'd have to know H...but I'm not worried about him taking the kids. He has a high profile job and wouldn't want the kids more than he has them now. He has been unwilling to opt for any custody at all--he likes his flexibility.
--The dynamic that I don't understand is that he's met OW's kids (s10, s10, and d13). I'm sure they know he has kids and so it's got to be a little "weird" that his kids are nowhere to be seen. He's been with OW for a year and I think they are more "out of the closet" in her world. For example, she threw a birthday party for him last month.
Ugh.
M 44, H 46 D11, D9, D5 Married 12 years PA confirmed 9/2011 I filed 3/2012 H moved out 7/2012
