New to separation. Am I doing the right things?

[Denver_2010]

I think Denver made a comment a couple weeks ago. It went something like this, “I always knew I had a chance if W ever showed any sad, mad and happy emotions”. I guess I am trying to find any miniscule benefit from the latest development of W threatening a divorce. W expressed mad emotions yesterday which I don’t want to see. I think it’s really

Yes. I don't think that this is progress, but it shows that she is still emotionally vested in the R/M. I mean think about it... why did she say that to you yesterday? was there a purpose other than to inflict pain upon you? Why would she want to that? Because SHE is hurt. She is lashing out on you. You are the person who she blames for her hurt.

She didn't need to tell you that she is going to divorce you via text yesterday. Did she run out and file after sending that text? Of course not. It was her hurt and anger causing her to lash out at you.

AND, she is hoping that you will reply in a manner that will validate why she feels that way. She wants you to validate the reasons that she left you and is thinking of divorcing you. Why? Because that makes it easier for her. You being nice and a new man makes the decision more difficult. She wants you to reply in anger so that she can say, 'see, same old RoughEnough... this is why I left him... this is why I cannot trust his words that he's changed... this is why I cannot go back to that M'.

This is why you need to bite your lip and not get drawn into the fray.

You are the villain in the WAW's play... stay off of the stage.

Denver