Separation reality...drawing near.

[sweetbabyred]

This is a great book. Depending on your sitch, you might not be able to implement a lot of it right now, but the info will come in handy later.

I learned that my LL is acts of service and quality time, while H's are words of affirmation and gifts. So he was always bringing me little things I didn't need, but forgetting to empty the dishwasher like I asked.

And I'd take his car for an oil change before one of his road trips, but didn't spend a lot of time telling him how much I loved him.

So I realized that we were both showing love in the way that we wanted it and just didn't feel it because we weren't receiving what we wanted. The author says it's like speaking different languages. If I speak French, you can talk to me all day in Spanish, but I'm not going to understand anything.

Once you figure out her love language (and there's an online quiz you can do for that), you'll have a better idea of knowing what will make the most impact to her. And you'll understand what you need to feel loved also.